A quote from your text states: “… we get so involved in the role of counselor that we sometimes forget the client inside us. It can become habit to separate ourselves from our clients with a sense of self-righteousness that we do not have the problems they do.” Do you see this tendency in yourself? How do you stay in contact with your inner client? What does that mean for you?
I have felt disconnected from a client in my current job that struggles with depression. It is challenging for this client to maintain her part-time job while taking a class at MC and managing her mental health. I have found myself becoming frustrated with her because when I compare all of the responsibilities I have with work, school, family, and maintaining my health as well, I’ve felt like my client has it pretty easy. I found myself minimizing the impact her mental health has on her ability to maintain and applying the doctrine I grew up with that “If I can do it, you can do it.” Looking back on it now, I definitely see that I was centering my experience and in the process separating myself from my client because I felt like I didn’t have the problems that she did. However, the reality is that everyone has his or her own struggles and their own ways of coping. I stay in contact with my inner client by reminding myself of times when a little understanding from someone would have gone a long way in helping me deal with an issue. As my client works with her treatment team to get and stay on track it’s important that I am encouraging and always believe that she is capable of making the changes she desires. Staying connected with my inner client means curbing my own frustrations and judgments about what I think my clients should do and remain understanding and encouraging as they go through their own process.
What beliefs about yourself do you have that will allow you to find commonalities with your clients so that you do not see it as “us” versus “them”?
I see mental health as an important part of everyone’s lives, not just those who have a diagnosis. We all fall on a spectrum of health when it comes to physical health and I believe the same principle applies to mental health. As an aspiring mental health practitioner I know I need to do a better job with having my mental check-ups by engaging in therapy. Like for most people, I neglect my health and put it off because I’m too busy. This can become very problematic once I begin practicing because of the negative impact neglecting self-care has on helping professionals. I believe in practicing what you preach therefore, I know that I will need to be more proactive with my mental health. Knowing this about myself helps me to identify with people struggling with managing their mental health.